Don’t we need to breathe after a divorce?
My sister has finalized her divorce and because of it we had a family meeting. Now, I belong to a big family that has an equal amount of girls and boys. During this family gathering, the girls of the family start scheming and asking the boys for help to match my sister Nadia (the divorcee) with one of our friends or what have you. During this whole discussion, a movie was mentioned – Must Love Dogs. Out of curiosity I got a video of it and watched it. Definitely it’s not my kind of movie but it does somewhat reminded me of my family and my sisters situation. My family is a watered version of that family.
Now I am not complaining about our closeness but I am totally against the fact that she just got out of a relationship and now my sisters are trying to get her into another one. So I said, breathe and enjoy it…Wow, the violent reactions from the girls was shocking…
This is the thing; she’s single again – not alone. With the size of our family, I do not doubt the fact that we will be able to find means and ways to offset whatever loneliness she may feel. She has friends that she can hang out as well. She has a job that she can focus on. If someone comes along then that’s good but to actively look… I don’t know… My bros are with me with this philosophy… but then again….Nadia breathe, go to the park, and relax before you start hunting again….
May 14, 2008 at 12:53 pm
Well being recently divorced myself I understand both issues. There is, as a woman, a tendency to jump into another relationship simply because women don’t like being alone. But the one thing for me that took a while was realizing that I need to be alone.
My divorce has been final for 2 months but we’ve been separated apart since November of last year. I’ve finally started dating again but I’m not looking for anythign serious. I think in time your sister will get to that place as well.